That's Just Shady...

The title of this post is what my good friend Brooke told me when I told her the following story:

Ron was on point. He called when he said he would, communicated well and was affectionate on dates. Date number two was pretty great, so when we planned a third, I was looking forward to it. We decided on a Sunday. Ron had plans that morning, and I had plans in the evening, so we agreed on a 2:00 meet up.

At about 12:30 that day, I got a text from Ron apologizing for needing to reschedule our date that afternoon. I wrote back that it was no problem, and that I hoped all was ok. And I meant it.

Once again, cue the crickets.

I am a pretty good communicator in general. But, among the men I date, I really try especially hard. I want to stay as far away from the game playing that many daters subscribe to. Agree or not, I don't wait 24 hours to return a call or text to someone I am dating just to make them wonder what I am doing and to make them think that my life is fabulously full of friends and fun. My life is pretty full, but there is certainly time in it to send a text message.

So, I was kind of surprised when Ron never replied to me. Furthermore, if Ron didn't want to continue to get to know me, why would he have asked me for a third date?

So, when I broke it down for my friend Brooke later that day, she had three words to share: "That's just shady." Brooke's theory involves the fact that she believes many men are online dating fresh from a breakup and when they "disappear", they are really just back with their exes. Food for thought.

When I was watching a discussion among the other "Fab Four" not those British Invaders, the American Manhattan-ites (Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte-the ladies of the famed HBO series "Sex and the City"), they were discussing just this subject: when the men we date disappear, where do they go? Miranda shared that she pretends they die. More (harsher) food for thought. I'm not quite there...I don't wish ill will on these men, but c'mon...don't cancel a date via text and then vanish. Can you say "coward"? I can...I've gotten good at it.

So, Ron is history along with many others. And that's ok. But, I am glad to know that I am not alone in these experiences. That is precisely why I DVR those episodes of "Sex and the City".